As women we’re not conditioned to show, feel or express anger.
Which is a problem for many reasons.
Firstly it’s exhausting to suppress anger all the time. (This is something to note if you feel excessively tired much of the time.)
Secondly, there’s a tendency toward oversimplifying emotions, whereby ‘nice’ sits in one corner and ‘angry’ in the other. Thanks to good girl conditioning, women are always expected to sit themselves in the nice corner. This leads to a great deal of constraint on a woman’s capacity for full expression. (Which stops you from coming up with wonderful and interesting forms of protest like this.)
Thirdly, males are not conditioned in the same way when it comes to anger. ‘Boys with be boys’ conditioning anticipates anger as part of the natural range of human emotion. Which means that boys and men grow up with a permission that girls and women aren’t afforded. This creates a misunderstanding about a woman’s natural range of emotions. It positions her as weak, timid and/or lacking in opinions. Which means that when important decisions are being made in the home, in politics, and in business, it’s easy to disregard women’s voices.
Fourthly, when the world around you is filled with injustice, it’s important to speak up and influence public and private conversations on such matters. If however, you’re carrying any stories about anger being a negative emotion that can only be expressed in ways that are not conducive to positive change in the world, you’re going to suppress not just your anger, but your voice.
I don’t want that for you.
I’d like us all to take time in rethinking anger; what it is and how we can experience and express it in a healthy way. Most importantly, I’d like to see more women showing the world what it looks like to harness anger in a productive and transformational way.
To this end, we’re re-releasing a series this week on women, visibility and rage. There are six episodes in the series. They build upon one another and can be taken as stand alone episodes, should you be attracted to one that seems most pertinent to you right now.
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