During the holiday break I deliberately spent a good bit of the holiday period away from my computer and social media and soaked up the pleasures of the non-digital world. During that time, an old friend of mine died, and it gave me great pause. I spent a lot of time thinking about his life. About what an ordinary, extraordinary life he’d had. He was a beloved husband and father of two small children, he was a nuclear physicist, and he was a guy who loved music, camping, and being with his friends. Although he’d achieved a lot in his life, it was his humility, his thoughtfulness and all his small kindnesses over the years that really stayed with me.
NB: this is part 2 of a 2 part post on visibility lessons of 2018. In part 1 I spoke about the visibility lessons learned as a writer this year.
Pursuing new opportunities
Having set up my year to write, I was approached early in 2018 to be a part of a new initiative – the creation of Australian Women’s Day (a national day to celebrate the women and girls of Australia).
This was something that immediately excited me. It’s 100% aligned with my vision for the world and with our work here at the School of Visibility, so I happily stepped toward the opportunity when it arose. It opened new doors for me, it saw me making connections I wouldn’t otherwise have pursued, I became part of a beautiful circle of women, and it coincided with a dream I’ve had for Australia and for the women of the world, … [Read More...]
‘So what does visibility mean to you?’ the interviewer asks.
I take a breath. A deep breath.
It’s a question that’s been hovering, floating through the periphery of my mental landscape since the presenter at that conference invited us to ponder; ‘What’s your next big leap? What will you expand into now?’
‘Make the invisible visible’, I heard as tears welled up in my eyes. ‘But there’s so much that’s invisible I thought’.
Sexism, racism, oppression in so many forms. It’s all invisible to the privileged. Biases are completely invisible to those who benefit from them.
And stories. So many stories. Absent from mainstream narrative that excludes so many more than it invites to its table.
But not just stories. Actual people. People missing. From history yes. And from actual buildings too. Boardrooms and parliaments, television screens, award ceremonies, art gallery walls, public spaces and places.
And then there’s another … [Read More...]
‘I sabotage myself by not being visible online, not promoting myself, not emailing people, not blogging, not doing anything that exposes me to criticism or the possibility of getting it wrong.’
I see some variation of this statement almost every week in spaces filled with female entrepreneurs operating online. The person posting always sounds distressed and like the whole thing is really personal to her. Like she’s the only one who is acting this way.
The thing is, she’s not alone and if you recognise yourself in this behaviour, you’re not alone either. We all have these fears. They arise from conditioning which says, ‘First and foremost, be sure to please other people, don’t offend anyone, don’t rock the boat, don’t be too radical or different.’
After years of being conditioned this way for decades, we then step into the entrepreneurial space and wonder why it all feels so challenging. … [Read More...]
‘Build it and they will come’ is a mantra that’s played subconsciously through so many people’s mind since the release of ‘Field of Dreams’ almost 30 years ago. (God, that makes me feel old.)
As a student of the law of attraction and a person who spent many years averse to marketing, I’ve always found this idea very appealing. What if I could just focus on creating something and then rely on the quality and value of my work to attract the audience?
Some variation of this thought occupies the mind of many creatives. It’s rampant in the arts where your value is measured by the quality of your work rather than the commercial success of it. In fact, in some artistic communities, commercial success is taken as proof that you’re not a quality artist.
(By the by, what a load of crap that is. When I find myself falling … [Read More...]