There’s a story I’ve heard a few times lately which I want to bring to the surface because it’s stopping women from doing the work to clear their visibility blocks.

The story goes like this; My desire for visibility is wrong. I’m looking for external validation where I should be focused on internal validation. 

Let’s break this down.

1. Your desire for visibility is not wrong

Firstly, your desire for visibility is not wrong. Every human being is born with a desire to be seen and heard. It’s part and parcel of being an expression of consciousness itself. Consciousness wants to see itself expressing itself.

So don’t ever let some misunderstanding of spiritual teachings convince you that a desire to be seen or heard is wrong. It’s not. That desire comes from the source of consciousness itself. If it didn’t, there’d be no human beings, no planet, no animals or plants. Consciousness wants to see itself expressed in the material realm.

To deny this desire is to deny the basis of human existence.

2. You have to see yourself to heal yourself

Secondly, yes, that desire might also be connected to human wounding. Wounding around not being seen, around wanting to be validated, around wanting to be loved.

And you know how you heal those wounds? You do personal development work through the lens of visibility. You clear the visibility blocks that say; ‘You’re not worthy, you’re not enough, you don’t deserve to have a voice, nobody wants to see you’.

So many people make the mistake of thinking that visibility blocks can be cleared through more generic personal development work. Sadly, it just doesn’t happen. What does happen is that you clear out loads of other blocks and then wonder why you’re still terrified of being seen for the work you’re bringing into the world, of promoting your work, of becoming successful.

The first step in our visibility methodology™ as laid out in the Visibility Rites of Passage, is to see yourself. To do that, you have to understand how the theme of visibility has threaded its way through your life. How you’ve been wounded by not being seen or heard, how it’s blocking you, how it’s holding you back.

The remedy to a desire for external validation isn’t to get lots of IG followers. It’s to see yourself. To find your visibility related wounds and to heal them.

3. The point of visibility is to be of service to the world

Once you’ve seen your wounds and healed them, your need to be seen by others lessens and lessens. Until eventually, your visibility journey shifts from being about you to being about others. These happen in stages 3 and 4 that I outline in the Visibility Rites of Passage.

You become completely comfortable with being seen and heard. You stop hiding and you operate from a place of self-acceptance, self-love, and self-respect.

When you’ve taken this path, your visibility efforts become acts of service. Service to the community you’re here to support.

So rather than concluding that your visibility desire is wrong, what if it were absolutely right? What if it were signalling to you that it’s time? Time to step forward and do the inner work that’s necessary to play a bigger role in this world. To help others and change the trajectory of life on this planet.

That’s what’s possible for you when you stop getting caught up in stories that aren’t serving you and instead, get on with doing the work of clearing your visibility blocks.