Healing | The School of Visibility

If you’re a coach or mentor interested in women’s empowerment, this is for you

‘If you have come here to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you’ve come because your liberation is bound up in mine, then let us work together.’ Lilla Watson and Aboriginal Activists Group, Queensland

What do you think of that idea?

Personally I’d like to see it used as the guiding principle for anyone who feels called to coach, mentor, and/or support, motivate, empower, inspire, or facilitate healing for other people.

It takes you immediately from an hierarchical basis for your relationship, where one person is superior to the other in some way, to recognising that human evolution and liberation is bound together in a web of complex interrelations. Or an a more pragmatic level, it reminds you that when you teach, you learn and when you learn, you teach.

The other quote I’d love everyone to post in plain sight so they might be reminded … [Read More...]

I didn’t know I could say no! Stand your ground. Get the birth you want

This post is dedicated to all women who need support saying ‘no’ as you prepare for the birth of your child. It’s for all the women who are hearing their soul whisper, ‘You deserve more and better’.

“I didn’t know I could say no,” she exclaimed, turning her surprised face towards me. I can see the cogs literally whirring as she applies this new knowledge to her situation, as the possibility for a different way forward opens up.

I smile encouragingly, my own cogs working overtime as my mind is flooded with all that I desperately want her to know to ensure her birth goes as she dreams of… Where to even start?

I want her to know that her right to say no is enshrined in human rights law.

I want her to know that these human rights apply equally to her in pregnancy and birth just as they … [Read More...]

If you want to grow your business, don’t do this

When you run your own business, you get a different sort of feedback than you do when you work for someone else. As an employee, your boss can be explicit about what’s expected of you and what’s not, and as long as you’re happy to operate within those boundaries, things are relatively smooth sailing.

As a business owner though, things are not quite as linear. Your feedback comes from your customers and clients IF you survey them regularly.

It also comes after a launch where people have either bought from you or they haven’t. You can definitely acquire some data from that experience, although how to interpret the data can be tricky.

And of course, you have indicators like how many people are subscribing and unsubscribing to your emails, or following you on socials, or visiting your website.

In between all of that is a lot of space which means … [Read More...]

Stepping into fearlessness

It’s been a while since we released a new class. And this one, I’m really excited about, because it goes to the heart of the key to a really significant breakthrough I had on my own visibility journey; clearing the persecution imprint.

The persecution imprint is an energetic pattern passed down generation after generation which serves the purpose of keeping persecuted groups – in this case women – small, quiet and less powerful than they otherwise would be.

In the Western world, the persecution imprint really made its mark on women during the witch hunts. After 400 years of burning us at the stake, the message had well and truly been embedded in our DNA; being seen to be different, to be vocal or controversial, to do or say anything that was inconsistent with the philosophy of Church or State might cause trauma at best, or torture and death … [Read More...]

I’ll be more visible when…

One of the greatest hurdles to visibility I’ve seen in my own business and in my students is the idea of holding off on visibility. “I’ll be more visible when I lose weight, when I’ve had my hair done, when I get a better office to make videos from, when I have more time, when I have more money.”

We do this in a whole raft of areas in our life right? I’ll make more money when… I’ll write that book when… I’ll live my dream life when…

This week I found another really subtle delay tactic that’s been keeping me from being more visible. I saw it in light of a fairly big blow up on social media around the launch of Danielle LaPorte’s new program. If you don’t know Danielle, she’s a personal development teacher most well known for the creation of the Desire Map. Recently she released … [Read More...]