Are you a different person at work than you are at home?

Do you sometimes feel like you’ve got a split personality? Like the person you are at work is nothing like the person you are in the rest of your life?

This approach, whilst being incredibly common, also has a limited life span. It works well in the short term but eventually it’s exhausting to maintain.

We commit so many hours of our lives to working that if we aren’t being ourselves in that space we start to feel like we’re losing our identity. We lose our spark and passion for life.

There are many ways to deal with this. Sometimes it’s time to acknowledge that your workplace isn’t for you any more, that you’ve outgrown it or it just isn’t aligned to your values anymore. Sometimes a new venture is calling your name. (If running your own business is that something, you might want to check out this free video … [Read More...]

If you want to grow your business, don’t do this

When you run your own business, you get a different sort of feedback than you do when you work for someone else. As an employee, your boss can be explicit about what’s expected of you and what’s not, and as long as you’re happy to operate within those boundaries, things are relatively smooth sailing.

As a business owner though, things are not quite as linear. Your feedback comes from your customers and clients IF you survey them regularly.

It also comes after a launch where people have either bought from you or they haven’t. You can definitely acquire some data from that experience, although how to interpret the data can be tricky.

And of course, you have indicators like how many people are subscribing and unsubscribing to your emails, or following you on socials, or visiting your website.

In between all of that is a lot of space which means … [Read More...]

Three stories we tell ourselves that stop us from speaking up

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Today we’re talking about three stories we tell ourselves that stop us from speaking up.

It’s so important to recognise these stories, because once you see them, you can do something about them.

It’s when we don’t see them that we get stuck with them, and the reality we unconsciously create limits our visibility.

Story number 1: I’ve got nothing to say

You may have had a thought like this when you’ve sat down to write a blog post or a chapter of the book you’re writing or a script for a video you’re trying to create. We see a blank page in front of us and suddenly the pressure to fill it overwhelms us. And because the words don’t flow within 5 seconds, we tell ourselves, ‘I’ve got nothing to say!’

When this … [Read More...]

Visibility lessons from 2018, part 2: Australian Women’s Day

NB: this is part 2 of a 2 part post on visibility lessons of 2018. In part 1 I spoke about the visibility lessons learned as a writer this year.

Pursuing new opportunities

Having set up my year to write, I was approached early in 2018 to be a part of a new initiative – the creation of Australian Women’s Day (a national day to celebrate the women and girls of Australia).

This was something that immediately excited me. It’s 100% aligned with my vision for the world and with our work here at the School of Visibility, so I happily stepped toward the opportunity when it arose. It opened new doors for me, it saw me making connections I wouldn’t otherwise have pursued, I became part of a beautiful circle of women, and it coincided with a dream I’ve had for Australia and for the women of the world, … [Read More...]

The courage to upset another

Often women will say to me ‘I don’t want to speak up because I’m worried about someone disagreeing with me, or of causing an argument, or about upsetting people’. I completely understand that. I was reminded recently of just how much courage you need to speak up and share your truth, especially when you know the person listening might not want to hear what you have to say.

As a 1:1 coach for many years, I had to get comfortable with gently holding a mirror to clients so they could see things about themselves they didn’t want to see.

I’m a pretty upfront sort of person. I like to know where I stand with people and I really dislike the feeling that someone is manipulating me to get the outcome they want (especially when they’re manipulating me in the nicest possible way. I REALLY hate that. Give me a straight … [Read More...]