Do you have a story to share?
I’ve held back from publicly sharing a good portion of my story for many years. My reticence being driven by a fear of hurting other people, being judged, causing unnecessary discomfort, and/or potentially destroying relationships.
It’s made me feel like a person walking through the world with one hand tied behind my back or with a muzzle on my face.
I’ve created loads of content, I’ve shared lots of opinions, but I’ve been hiding bits of myself.
For a good amount of time that’s because I was wounded. I wasn’t ready. I hadn’t worked through the pain to find the wisdom that lies beneath.
Then, when I felt sufficiently healed, and I felt called to share more of myself with the world, I still didn’t speak up because of visibility blocks.
‘What would people think of me? What would people say? How would those closest to me respond?’
The part of me that wanted to hide out developed a lot of stories and strategies at that point. I told myself I didn’t need to share my story, I hid behind a more academic perspective on some topics, I focused on other work that didn’t involve me telling my story (or which involved me sharing it only with small groups behind closed doors).
And then I started doing visibility block clearing work. Lots of it. I actively dug up every fear and story I had around people hearing my story. I cleared all the terror and limitation I could find.
I also saw other women speaking up about things I wish I’d spoken up about. Sharing stories – deeply personal and intimate stories – and I knew that my fear had made me selfish. Focused only on my own pain and not on how, in the sharing of it, I might bring comfort or courage to others.
This isn’t to say that every person must tell their story publicly. But IF YOU FEEL THE PULL toward sharing and you’re not doing it, then consider this an invitation to do something about it.
Looking to share your own story? Here are a few tips to support you:
No one is required to share their story with the world and it’s certainly not a pre-requisite for building an effective business or movement. It is however something that many people feel pulled toward or called to do. If that’s you, there’ll be a little piece of dissatisfaction knawing away at you until you do it.