You’re registered! I’m so looking forward to sharing the Visibility Class Saying no to sexual harassment with you. Below is everything you need to know to participate.
The class is scheduled to take place on
AEST: November 30 at 1.30pm
EST: November 29 at 9.30pm
PST: November 29 at 6.30pm
GMT: November 30 at 2.30am.
To join the call, simply click here: https://zoom.us/j/246548574
A recording will be made available if you can’t make it live.
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PREPARING FOR THE CLASS
Please schedule the time in your diary so you won’t be disrupted during the class. We’ll be doing some deep clearing work and the more present you can be on the call, the more effective you’ll find it.
You might also want to reflect on some of the sexual harassment you’ve experienced in your own life and/or that other women you know have experienced. In these block clearing calls, I do ask for input so I can personalise the clearing to those in attendance. For that reason, it can be helpful to have spent even just a few minutes thinking about this in advance of the call.
NB: this isn’t essential for participation, it’s merely a recommendation.
If you read the good girl conditioning above, you might already have started to guess how the good girl is bound to silence when it comes to sexual harassment. Here’s what happens; she’s taught to behave, to comply, to not cause trouble. She’s particularly expected to keep the peace with her colleagues and to please people in positions of power.
Amongst the first people she pleases are her parents or caretakers, as well as her teachers, and then her bosses.
In addition, society imposes a structural hierarchy on humanity. Men are given primacy over women. White over colour. Higher socio-economic status over lover socio-economic status. Ably bodied over people with disabilities (which, when you’re reliant on a caretaker for physical support, puts a woman in a particularly vulnerable position).
Of course, there are many other intersections that could be named. Here’s what’s important to know; the greater the number of intersections, the greater the ties that bind.
Here’s what else the patriarchy teaches women; your value is intimately linked to your appearance. The more attractive you are, the more praise and attention you will receive. You’ll be promoted more regularly, you receive more media coverage, you’ll be paid more. And the definition of ‘attractive’ in the eyes of the system – as perpetuated by the media – is white and ably bodied. It’s feminine. It waivers on the role of breasts and bums but it’s clear about one thing; overweight is not allowed.
In the context of sexual harassment, the most significant message we all learn as women is that men’s needs come first. Here’s what we’re taught; When we’re giving you sexual attention, it’s a complement. You should receive it as such, even if it’s unwanted. Your needs or desires are not relevant in this equation. Ours – mens – are. You should be flattered that we deem you worthy of our attention.
What then is the good girl to do when this unwanted sexual attention is directed her way? How can she possibly speak up? Every single aspect of her conditioning tells her not to. It says Brush it off. Smile when a guy pays attention to you. He didn’t mean any harm. They won’t take it well if you bring this up. He has all the power, you don’t have a choice. You have to accept this.
This same good girl also knows that men can shift from complimentary to violent in the blink of an eye. So she smiles and treads gently to stop things from escalating. ‘Better to be harassed than raped or killed,’ she reasons.
If #metoo reminded us of anything it’s that we are in the midst of an epidemic. I doubt there’s a woman alive who hasn’t been affected by sexual harassment or assault at one time or another. This is what it is to be a woman in the world in the 21st century. To stop the epidemic, we need to speak up. We need to be confident and comfortable with saying No more. We need to remove the ties that bind. We need to find a way to be vocal in the world without the threat of repercussion. That’s what this visibility block clearing class is all about.
I really like that visibility has been approached from a much deeper, richer, intellectual perspective – the history of women and power which I really connect with and is very motivating… I am really re-thinking and trying to work differently, much more gently and in tune with my body… I feel so much better about being visible.
— Libby, Sydney, Australia
I love what you do, and you have without a doubt completely changed my life.
— Samantha, Sydney, Australia
Your thoughts on the worldwide problem of women and their oppression/lack of power/permission to be visible attracted me to your work. You are honest, spot on, and without gimmick. That’s so refreshing.
— Shalagh, Maryland, USA
I had the biggest clearing of my life on Monday. Sam you are a wonderful practitioner. You dealt with the cosmic and the pragmatic and the sublime and the (completely) ridiculous, without missing a beat. I am experiencing the world so differently now… and it’s a sweet place to live. So much gratitude. So much love.
— Belinda, Gold Coast, Australia
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