Once you’ve realised that visibility is an issue for you, the question becomes, what are you going to do to address it?
You can take small steps – a challenge here, a burst of momentum there.
But ultimately that’s going to be like deciding to run a marathon and only training once every few weeks and wondering why you’re not seeing any progress.
But why on earth do we sabotage ourselves in this way?
Here are a few I’ve told myself over the years and the tough love I gave myself to pull myself out of playing small.
I’m fine just serving a few clients. I’m happier that way!
Tough love’s response; Are you sure about that? Is the money you’re bringing in really that fulfilling to you? Do you truthfully feel like you’re realising your potential? Perhaps the deeper truth is that you don’t really believe you can do this?
I don’t really want to run a business anyway.
Tough love’s response; Heads up – if you don’t want to work for someone else and you need money to live on, you’ve got two choices; rely on someone else for money – a loved one and/or the government are popular options – or accept that you’re running a business and start acting like it.
I’m too busy to deal with this visibility stuff.
Tough love’s response; Did you notice you got really busy with housework when you were writing your university thesis? Did you notice you get really busy playing with the design of your website when you’d told yourself it was time to reach out to that person who could help your business grow?
What’s the point of doing all the other stuff if you don’t deal with your visibility blocks? You’ll just be another mouse running in circles and not actually getting anywhere.
Choose that path if you want, but really, is that what you’re going to do with this life?
It’s the wrong time for me to deal with this visibility stuff.
Tough love’s response; Are you dying or did you just have a baby and you’re severely sleep deprived and so your brain really isn’t functioning properly? No? Then you can make time to clear your visibility stuff. End of story.
I’m doing a decent job of being visible. That’ll do me for now.
Tough love response; Tell me truthfully, are you feeling deeply fulfilled in your business and life? Do you feel satisfied that your gifts are being seen and appreciated in the world or that your message is really making an impact on the planet? No. Then you’re not doing a decent job of being visible. You’re doing a crap job.
I don’t have the money to invest in myself at the moment
Tough love’s response; Really? Remember when you worked with all of those disadvantaged communities and walked into the homes of people who were earning way less money than you, and they had 2 or 3 more televisions than you had and everyone in the family had a better mobile phone than you, not to mention new, expensive running shoes?
People always find money for things that keep them comfortable. They spend even more money on things that will keep them well within their comfort zone.
What I think what you meant to say is, ‘I’m not ready to get out of my comfort zone just yet.’
I just want to do more clearing work. I’m not really interested in doing the practical stuff.
Tough love’s response; You live in a world of practical stuff. Eventually you’re going to have to face it.
I know; the inner work is more fun but unless you want to be an ineffectual yogini for the rest of your life – feeling slightly resentful of all of those other people who put themselves out there and are actually doing something with their lives – then you’re going to have to take action at some point. For you, meditating your life away will mean one thing and one thing only; you chose to hide out in escapism.
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Come and join us. I don’t want you to be in the same position this time next year as you are right now. I want you to be feeling amazed at what you’ve been able to accomplish and deeply connected to a group of incredible women who are all raising each other up, becoming leaders in their industries.