Resources for living happy and free

Feminism and the daughters of the Goddesses

The last couple of weeks have been a beautiful ride for me. I’ve been drawing together many threads of my business life, connecting parts of myself that I could never see the connection between, weaving them into one powerful integrated whole.

I haven’t known how to speak about it so I’ve stayed silent, waiting for the words to find me.

Today, here’s what’s waiting to be shared; we are living during the rise of the feminine and this is not a process that happens outside of us. It’s being built out firstly within us, and then it will be expressed in the world. This rising requires the participation of all. As each woman steps into the full power of her being, the feminine becomes more whole, visible, and luminous.

To take that journey we have to be willing to see the dark spots, the shadows, the ugly realities.

We’ve been … [Read More...]

What is visibility?

‘So what does visibility mean to you?’ the interviewer asks.

I take a breath. A deep breath.

It’s a question that’s been hovering, floating through the periphery of my mental landscape since the presenter at that conference invited us to ponder; ‘What’s your next big leap? What will you expand into now?’

‘Make the invisible visible’, I heard as tears welled up in my eyes. ‘But there’s so much that’s invisible I thought’.

Sexism, racism, oppression in so many forms. It’s all invisible to the privileged. Biases are completely invisible to those who benefit from them.

And stories. So many stories. Absent from mainstream narrative that excludes so many more than it invites to its table.

But not just stories. Actual people. People missing. From history yes. And from actual buildings too. Boardrooms and parliaments, television screens, award ceremonies, art gallery walls, public spaces and places.

And then there’s another … [Read More...]

Everyone thinks you can’t learn this…

Often you’ll hear people talk about the X factor in show business. The statement, ‘She has the X factor’ will often be followed with, ‘You can’t learn that’.

I disagree.

Actually I agree that you can’t learn it. You can learn to be technically proficient. You can learn techniques to minimise nerves. You can repeat a skill enough times that it feels very natural to you.

But you can’t learn to feel. You can’t learn to shine. You can’t learn authenticity.

That’s not a process of learning. It’s a process of unlearning.

I believe everyone has the X factor. We’re born with it. It’s an innate part of being a human being. What happens though, is that we’re taught not to let our X factor shine through.

We’re taught that by well meaning teachers and parents and friends who don’t let us be ourselves. People who try and fit us … [Read More...]

Every business woman needs to free herself of this

Every business woman (and stay at home mum, and woman who’s retired, and woman on a disability pension, and female student) needs to free herself of her inner good girl.

The inner good girl is the one who cares deeply about being likeable. She’s very focused on pleasing other people and spends a lot of her time internalising her emotions. Emotions which, if expressed, would rock the boat or cause problems for other people.

The good girl is a role we’re all encouraged to play from a very young age. And at that time, it makes sense. Parents need to get children dressed and fed and to bed on time, and teachers need to educate us. And so, as a child, the more you inhabit the good girl role, the more you’re rewarded.

Unfortunately though, what worked for us as girls, does not work for us as women. In fact, … [Read More...]

6 steps you can take to start prioritising promotion in your business

‘I sabotage myself by not being visible online, not promoting myself, not emailing people, not blogging, not doing anything that exposes me to criticism or the possibility of getting it wrong.’

I see some variation of this statement almost every week in spaces filled with female entrepreneurs operating online. The person posting always sounds distressed and like the whole thing is really personal to her. Like she’s the only one who is acting this way.

The thing is, she’s not alone and if you recognise yourself in this behaviour, you’re not alone either. We all have these fears. They arise from conditioning which says, ‘First and foremost, be sure to please other people, don’t offend anyone, don’t rock the boat, don’t be too radical or different.’

After years of being conditioned this way for decades, we then step into the entrepreneurial space and wonder why it all feels so challenging. … [Read More...]