Resources for living happy and free

Self care when speaking up

Self care is hugely important when you’re speaking up regularly in your business, your industry, in your domestic life, or at work. Without good self care practices, speaking up can be stressful, induce anxiety, and generally cause mental distress.

So here are five tips for self care when speaking up:

1. Make sure you’re supported

Support can look like a lot of different things.

Firstly, ensuring you have people around you who have your back no matter what, or people in your industry who are going through similar experiences, is critical. Having those relationships is going to make you happier anyway so this one is a bit of a no brainer. (Which incidentally, is why we offer live, mastermind rounds of A Visible Woman – so you can build those type of connections for life.)

Nutritionally – upping your game in this regard, provides you with so much support. The … [Read More...]

Patriarchy has stripped us of our confidence

To round out the discussion we’ve been having over the last couple of months around visibility and entrepreneurship, I’ve recently been speaking on the blog and during Tuesday morning chats, the necessity for creating a visibility strategy. I’ve spoken about:

This last topic – deepening your understanding of visibility – points to why it’s so necessary to have a visibility strategy. Understanding your own ‘why’ is a deeply important thing to anchor into. Otherwise, you end up focusing on so many other aspects of your business only to turn around one day and wonder why everyone else’s business seems to be growing and yours is stagnating.

This is a very predictable pattern. It’s not personal. It’s not life … [Read More...]

Seeking visibility for all the wrong reasons

As with any area of pursuit – including visibility – the why behind your desire is just as important as the what. Meaning; if you’re going to work toward visibility, it’s useful to understand the deeper reason for doing so.

In the video I visit the three aspects of visibility we’ve been exploring over the last few weeks vis-a-vis running your own business; authority, connection, and traffic.

Today I invite you to consider the light and deep of each.

AUTHORITY V FAME

We pursue authority for a very different reason than our reason for pursuing fame.

Fame is about being known. Sometimes it’s about being loved. There’s often a good deal of ego attached to fame. See me, want me, desire me. It’s like trying to fill a bucket that has holes in the base. You can never get quite enough water in it to feel satisfied or like it’s … [Read More...]

Blocks to growing traffic and building connection and authority

Last week I spoke about the three areas to focus on in your visibility strategy in order to grow your brand: traffic, connection, and authority.

This week we’re exploring the visibility blocks that might arise in relation to each.

It’s so important to understand that different blocks arise in relation to different focus areas. Seeing is the first and vital step. Because once you’ve seen them, you can actually clear them. Until that happens though, you’re stuck trying and trying to achieve results, frustrated that things just don’t seem to be working for you although you’re not sure why.

Here are just some of the types of blocks that can arise:

TRAFFIC

Stranger danger! If you were ever taught to be wary of the world, to distrust strangers – and there were probably very good reasons for you to be taught that as a child – as an adult, they … [Read More...]

Judging my entrepreneurial self

I’ve spent so much time finding and releasing limiting beliefs over the years, it amazes me that it took me this long to see this huge block to business growth. It’s this; my own judgment of entrepreneurship.

I had judgment coming in from every angle;

My social justice self thought it was too commercial, too immersed in capitalism.
My spiritual self thought it was too materialistic to earn money by selling things (what was being sold didn’t seem to matter, it was the fact of selling that was the problem).
My middle class self thought it was crass to sell things for a living when I’d already acquired a good education and really, should go and work for a big corporation or a government agency (that being a more respectable way to earn a living apparently).
As a feminist I felt guilty about selling to other women, knowing that

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